Happily Ever After Starts at the Beginning…

Happily Ever After Starts at the Beginning…. I have performed hundreds of weddings and have come to the conclusion (completely unverified) that you can tell a lot about the dynamics of the marriage by how the couple behaves while getting married. One wedding I performed involved a couple that already had a child. While the groom focused on his friends in the audience, the bride focused on their baby and neither of them appeared to be aware of the other. Their marriage only lasted a few years. Sometimes the bride and groom don’t appear to have any awareness about what they are saying as they repeat their vows with a glazed over look is in their eyes. One bride accidentally said, “Tell debt do us part,” rather than “death.” Since wedding season is right around the corner here are some wedding—and marriage—tips that can help: Remember that this is a sacred ceremony—not a performance. Weddings often seem more like a highly rehearsed performance than the creation of a powerful union. Do your best to be focused on what is happening between you and your partner, rather than the audience or immediate surroundings. Be in the moment: Notice what your partner’s eyes are like while you are saying your vows. Notice the meaning of the words being said. Take note of your senses—what do you smell, hear, see, feel as you share your vows? These are the memories that will not be forgotten. A wedding is not a photo shoot. While everyone wants beautiful photos of their wedding day, a beautiful experience is even more important. If you are focusing...